“Asking is the beginning of receiving. Make sure you don't go to the ocean with a teaspoon. At least take a bucket so the kids won't laugh at you.” Jim Rohn
Have you ever heard that phrase “It’s better to give than to receive”? In many ways I’d agree with that statement. It can feel wonderful knowing that you’ve given something to someone that’s helped them or brought them a bit of happiness. When giving there’s that element of enjoyment about knowing you’ve helped. Instant satisfaction. Like smiling at someone in the street and seeing their face light up.
But what about receiving? Is that such a bad thing? Is it wrong to allow others to help us too? We can be such prideful beings at times can’t we! There’s that fear that if we allow ourselves to receive then that makes us less than we really are. Not as good as others. Of course it’s OK when we’re giving because that means we’re contributing and making a difference. BUT, if we’re receiving… a whole different story! Which is of course utter nonsense.
No one can go through life without even a little bit of help at times. The Ego would have us believe that by receiving help from others we’re beholden to them, or that they’re better than us. This is just another illusion to keep us in a place of stagnation and fear.
Let’s look this in a different way. Take an oil lamp. Without the oil and the wick, there is no flame. Without the flame there is no light. The Light allows the person filling the lamp to do so many things when it gets dark. The person using the light of the lamp looks after it and makes sure that there is enough wick and oil in the lamp to provide the light. So, in a sense, is giving something back to the lamp. It’s a cycle. Person fills lamp. Lamp provides light to the person, and so on.
In the same way in life, we need to allow ourselves to receive from others in order to give of ourselves more fully.
Given that we are all equal, all part of the same thing, which is The All That Is/Divine Source, what on earth makes us think we’re not good enough to receive? That’s like saying that a beautiful rose is not as good as a beautiful daffodil. Or course they’re just as good as each other – they’re just slightly different. However they’re still flowers. The bees and insects which fly into them allow themselves to receive the nectar to make honey and, at the same time, take the pollen to new flowers. The flower and bee both give and receive freely. It’s mutually beneficial.
Here’s the thing: if we keep on giving and giving and giving until we’re ready to drop what use are we then? We are so pooped and penniless that we cannot continue giving to others. Whereas if we give and receive equally, in balance, then the cycle can continue on for as long as it needs to.
Let me leave you with this final thought. Every time we stop ourselves receiving from someone who wishes to give to us, we are also denying them the joy and opportunity of giving. Think about it and gift yourself permission to receive just a little bit more ;-)
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